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Hello! Our names are Alex and Jenny. Thank you for taking the time to read our profile!
We worked together for several years before we started dating. One night, we were at a mutual friend’s birthday party, and Alex revealed that he didn’t know any constellations. Jenny grabbed his arm and led him out into the backyard to point out the ones she knew. He leaned in and kissed her, and the rest is history. We have been together since 2010 and were married in May 2014. We have an easy relationship. Both of us are pretty laid-back, and we communicate well even when life is difficult.
We live near Kansas City, MO, with our two dogs, Scout and Tsunami. In 2015, we started trying to get pregnant. In the time since, we have experienced several heartbreaking losses. Being parents is a dream and we know that family is not defined by genetics. Our focus has shifted to welcoming a child into our family through adoption. We would love to have an open adoption where a child is surrounded by all the people who love them.
Expectant mothers who choose to make an adoption plan may qualify for some level of financial assistance during their pregnancy. However, each person's situation and specific needs are different. Your adoption social worker can help you determine what level of assistance you qualify for and deserve. Many expectant mothers qualify for financial assistance to cover basic pregnancy and living expenses, including but not limited to - transportation reimbursement, utility assistance for phone, water, and electricity/gas, maternity clothing and supplements, etc.
Navigating a pregnancy alone is never easy. Depending on your situation and location, you may qualify for financial assistance to help cover the cost of basic living expenses, such as food and groceries.
Receiving quality medical care during your pregnancy is vital to both your health and the health of your baby. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your pregnancy-related medical expenses will be covered by the adoptive family.
Women who choose to place their baby for adoption may receive financial assistance to help cover the cost of rent and utilities. If you feel that you’ll need some help with these costs, it’s important to talk to your adoption social worker about it early in the process. Each expectant mother’s situation is different, and eligibility may vary.
In order to have a healthy pregnancy, it’s important that you have everything you need to lead a healthy lifestyle. Like food and groceries, the cost of some household items - like feminine and dental care items, along with prenatal supplements - may be covered during your pregnancy.
Placing a baby for adoption is a loving, but incredibly challenging decision to make. Many women experience an array of emotions during this time and find that counseling is very helpful in navigating those feelings. If you would like to receive counseling during or after your pregnancy, that can be arranged by your adoption social worker. The cost of counseling will be covered by the adoptive family or adoption organization.
If you need assistance with transportation, your adoption social worker can work with you to find the best solution. You may eligible for assistance with transportation costs or be connected with a transportation service to utilize during your pregnancy.
It won't cost you anything. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your medical and legal fees will be covered and you may be eligible for financial assistance with other pregnancy-related expenses.
Yes. Even if you don’t know the identity of the birth father, you can still choose to make an adoption plan. However, every adoption situation is different. The adoption social worker you’re assigned to will get to know you and your story first, and then guide you through the process accordingly.
You can make an adoption plan at any point in your pregnancy, even after the baby has been born. But, it's important to start the process as early in your pregnancy as possible. Connecting with those resources will allow you to gain access to important medical services, including prenatal care, to help ensure a healthy pregnancy.
One aspect of your adoption plan is the "Hospital Plan" an outline of how you'd like your hospital stay and delivery to go. You can craft this on your own or with the help of your adoption social worker. But everything is up to you. You’ll be able to choose who comes to the hospital with you, who is in the room with you during delivery, and how much time you’d like to spend with the baby before signing the final papers.
As part of your adoption plan, you'll determine whether or not you’d like to have an open or closed adoption or something in between. Open adoptions may include phone calls, messaging (via social media, email, or text), and/or periodic visits each year. Closed adoptions may include no contact at all or annual updates provided to the birth parent(s) by the adoptive family. Each post-adoption relationship is different and can vary based on what an expectant mother chooses in her adoption plan.
This last weekend, we hosted a tea party for our friend to celebrate the fact that he graduated college. Our sister-in-law helped decorate and Jenny spent a lot of time making scones, cookies, and a cake. Alex contributed a smoked roast beef, that he sliced for our tea sandwiches. Everyone wore hats and had a very silly time! Afterwards, we played pool in the basement and chatted. We also watched the Sporting Kansas City soccer game on tv.
. Football is very important to Alex and my brother, Jameson. See how serious they are? A couple years ago, I bought Alex and his dad and both of my brothers tickets to go see a game right before Christmas. Football isn't my favorite sport, but all of the guys in our families have cheered for the Chiefs since they were kids. I tend to nap or hide in the kitchen and make snacks when the game is on!
We had a BUSY weekend full of chores. Alex had to work Saturday and Sunday, so Jenny tackled laundry and grocery shopping. We managed to dig up all of the potatoes and garlic in our garden and we watched the olympics and a soccer game on tv during Alex's free time. Jenny is a teacher, so she has a few weeks before she has to return to work. We just started fostering two 8 week old puppies for a local no-kill shelter. They are the 6th and 7th pups that we have fostered. Our personal dogs are older, but they really enjoy playing with the pups and teaching them how to behave. Here is pic of one of the pups lounging in our backyard with our dogs, Tsunami and Scout.
Alex's favorite summer dessert are lemon-blueberry cupcakes. Jenny's favorite summer dessert is chocolate and peanut butter ice cream. This picture is of a tray of lemon-blueberry cupcakes that Jenny made!
I spent part of the weekend in southwest Missouri with my family. I got to hang out with my two younger brothers, chat with my parents, and play all sorts of silly games with my nephews who are 3 and 1. We read books, picked blackberries in my parents' backyard, and we played with the train set. Alex wasn't able to visit, because he had to work. Below is a picture of my mom reading to my oldest nephew. After I got home on Sunday, Alex and I watched part of the Olympics and a Sporting Kansas City soccer game. Alex made us dinner and we were able to chat and relax with the dogs in our living room.
Alex and I just got home from our 9 day camping trip. We hiked in six of the National Parks in Colorado and Utah and saw as many waterfalls as possible! This picture is from Garden of the Gods in Colorado Springs. We try to go on one long roadtrip every year. Last summer, we were able to drive to Portland and see my sister and her husband. Being able to spend that much time together really helps us set goals for the upcoming year. This year, we are each working on fitness goals. Last year, we finally sorted out a plan on how often to do the dishes!
Jenny's favorite subjects in school were reading and choir. Alex's favorite subjects were history and PE. This has been a long week. Jenny was sick and Alex's job was super busy. We managed to pick tomatoes, jalapenos, and tomatillos from the garden. We're hoping to have enough to can some salsa this year! This picture is from one of our hikes at a state parks near our home. For Labor Day, we are planing to bbq with friends. Enjoy the weekend!
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